AN URGENT MESSAGE FOR WOMEN
AN URGENT MESSAGE FOR WOMEN
I know you’ve been taught that being chosen is the highest form of worth. That to be loved romantically, publicly, permanently is the finish line. That someone’s “I want you” is a gold medal you’ve been training your whole life to earn.
But I need to tell you something with all the tenderness and truth I have. You were not born to live to be chosen. You were not meant to disappear just to fit into someone else's vision of a “good woman.”
Please stop sacrificing yourself on the altar of “at least I’m not alone.” I know how easy it is to lose yourself in the idea of love. To measure your worth by who chooses you, who texts back, who stays. I know the ache of waiting for someone to see you, to pick you, to make you feel whole. I know how the world has trained you to believe that your value is tied to being wanted, partnered, chosen.
You are not just a supporting character in someone else’s story. You are the main event in your own life. True lasting love begins with you. It begins with looking in the mirror and seeing someone worthy, not because of who loves her, but because she loves herself. It’s in the way you honor your own feelings, the way you say “no” when something doesn’t serve you, the way you choose peace over chaos, even if it means being alone for a season.
You are allowed to leave the table when love is no longer being served. You are allowed to start over, not because they failed, but because you finally chose to stop failing yourself. You are allowed to love yourself more than you love the idea of someone finally choosing you.
Choose you. Not just when you’re glowing. Not just when you’ve healed. Choose you when you’re messy. When you’re doubting.
When you’re halfway out the door, still afraid of the unknown.
Love shouldn’t cost you, YOU. If the price of love is your voice, your peace, and your purpose, it's not love. If you find yourself constantly shrinking, explaining, fixing, apologizing, or waiting for them to become who you hope they can be, that’s not love.
That’s survival. That’s fear. That’s attachment pretending to be connection.
You teach people how to treat you. Every time you accept less than you deserve, you give permission for them to offer even less. Loneliness is better than being lonely in a relationship. That hollow feeling when he’s right next to you? That’s your soul begging you to choose yourself.
Sweet woman, you were not created to love the idea of a relationship more than you love yourself. Start liking yourself today.
With all my heart,
A Woman who chose herself.
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