I WAS DISCOURAGED OVER THE WEEKEND
I Was Discouraged Over the Weekend.
Hello Tribe,
Have you ever reached the end of a week, sat with your own exhaustion, and realized you’ve been pouring and pouring into others, yet your own cup feels bone dry? That was me this weekend. I scrolled through messages from people telling me how much I’ve blessed them, how my words have changed their lives, how my presence has been a gift, and in the very next breath, they asked for a favor. Another request. Another need. Another withdrawal from my well.
Sometimes I wonder, at what point do people pause and say, “She has been a tremendous blessing to me. Let me give something back. Let me show her she matters too”? A retweet. A recommendation. Buy my book. Support the Emotional Intelligence Week. Just a simple, “How are you, really ED?” Not because they want something, but because they care.
That moment when you realize your generosity has become a grocery store where everyone shops, but no one stocks the shelves. You’re the emergency contact for everyone’s crisis. People celebrate your strength, but they rarely see your need. They love to bask in your light, but they forget you need warmth too.
And yes, I know the wisdom, give without expectation. Do it for the joy of giving. Let your reward be in the act itself. But let’s be honest, sometimes the lack of appreciation stings. Sometimes, it’s not about ego; it’s about the basic human need for reciprocity, for energy exchange, for someone to say, “You matter too”. Even the most generous spirit needs to be watered.
So what do you do when you feel unseen, unappreciated, and taken for granted?
You pause. You breathe. You remember that your worth is not measured by how much you give, nor by how much you receive in return. You set boundaries if you need to. You redirect your generosity to places and people who value it. And above all, you remember to appreciate yourself, to celebrate your own heart, your own resilience, your own capacity to love.
If you’re reading this and you know someone who has been a blessing to you, don’t just tell them. SHOW THEM. Give back. Invest in their dreams. Share their work. Celebrate them out loud. Sometimes the smallest gesture means everything. I just bought a book from a Twitter follower tonight who has been teaching us about Islam. I paid 10 times the price of the book because his tweets has been a blessing to me.
Reach out to someone who has improved the quality of your life and appreciate them. Don’t wait till something happens to them before you post their pictures and write a poem. Send them a message now.
P:S - If you want to attend the Emotional Intelligence Week 2025 for FREE in Nigeria. Ghana and Kenya, please support the Conference via this link. I have self-sponsored this education conference since 2018. The link has all the details you need about the conference. Thank you.
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