That TRENDING "TESTIMONY" is not glorifying God it is glorifying RELIGIOUS PROGRAMMING.

A disturbing interview recently trended. A woman proudly stated that "God gave her the grace" to iron her husband’s mistress’s clothes and pack his luggage for his infidelity escapades.

Pause. Breathe and read that again. Yes! please feast on what you just read again.

This isn't grace or godliness. This is religion robbing people of their ability to think. It’s a psychological hijacking dressed in scripture and shame. Religion doesn’t teach you to think, it teaches you to tolerate. It doesn’t just ask for your loyalty, it demands your silence. It replaces discernment with compliance, teaching adherents to “fast and pray” about problems they could otherwise solve with courage, logic, or boundaries. The Bible explicitly condemns injustice and infidelity which is a profound betrayal of trust. Yet religious culture often gaslights victims into conflating suffering with righteousness, as if self-erasure is a spiritual virtue.

If you choose to stay in a marriage corroded by infidelity, own that choice. Admit it is because you fear loneliness, crave the title of “wife” more than you crave dignity, fear starting over, or cling to societal validation. But do not drape your self-abandonment in spiritual language. Naaaa. Stop it. We can see through it. God does not bless the surrender of your worth.

Let’s flip the script. Would he have done the same if the roles were reversed? Would your husband iron your lover’s clothes? Would he help you pack your bags for your weekend getaway with another man? The answer is obvious. Men were not programmed to abandon themselves. Men were raised to choose self-respect and cancel women who cheat on them. Framing women’s suffering as “sacrifice” is a cultural script that prioritizes patriarchy over personhood.

Religion also teaches submission as surrendering your sanity. Suffering as a sign of spiritual depth. But that’s not God. That’s idolatry of marriage. That’s emotional masochism wrapped in religious language.

God Is not glorified by your oppression or erasure. He wants you whole. He wants you free. Let’s stop dragging God's name into our dysfunction. Let’s stop testifying about emotional abuse. Let’s stop calling oppression “grace.” This isn’t God. This is religion gone rogue and it’s time to wake up. Use your mind. Claim your agency and leave the ironing board behind.